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Stop Believing

Original post August 11, 2022 @ 9:08am

Did anyone else start singing, “Don’t Stop Believing?”

The first words that came to mind as I input words onto the internet (can’t quite call this typing, can’t quite call this writing… thumbing? Anyways..) were “Don’t stop believing.” But I’m here to tell you to stop believing.

Stop believing you can do this alone

Stop trying to do this by yourself

If you’re crying and your heart is hurting

Keep on going, but

Stop trying to do this by yourself

Stop believing you can do this alone

The hardest part of recovery for me right now is complete honesty. Honesty with when I need to pray and ask for help. Honesty with when I need to reach out and tell someone I’m not okay.

Why is this so difficult?

Pride is my first thought… sarcasm is my second thought. I don’t use sarcasm as much anymore, buy I am very prideful. I often want to do things alone or on my own. These are the times most crucial to reach out, first in prayer. Elder Jeffrey R. Holland states,

It will be required of each of us to kneel when we may not want to kneel, to bow when we may not want to bow, to confess when we may not want to confess—perhaps a confession born of painful experience that God’s thoughts are not our thoughts, neither are his ways our ways, saith the Lord (see Isaiah 55:8).

[We must] “yield to the enticings of the Holy Spirit,” and “through the atonement of Christ . . . becometh as a child, submissive, meek, humble, patient, full of love, willing to submit to all things which the Lord seeth fit to inflict upon him, even as a child doth submit to his father” (Mosiah 3:19

Elder Jeffrey R. Holland Quorum of the Twelve Apostles of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints

Stop believing you can do it on your own.

Recovery will come if you start believing you need to ask for help. First, in the form of prayer. Seek the Lord’s guiding hand then move forward with what you feel prompted to do.

It’s hard, especially if you’ve been hurt, abused, or experienced any form of trauma. You may need to seek help from a competent counselor and/or medical professional. Prayer, Honesty, and truth-telling with yourself, first, will lead you to more truth, peace, and joy. It won’t be easy. It will be hard, but it will be worth it. In the name of Jesus Christ, amen.

After She Suffered Abuse, What Was Her Attitude?

[A] dear friend of ours in Côte d’Ivoire in West Africa… suffered terrible emotional, and even some physical, abuse from her husband over a sustained period of time, and eventually they divorced. She never wavered in her faith and goodness, but because of his cruelty to her, she was deeply hurt for a long time. In her own words, she describes what happened:

“Though I said I forgave him, I always slept with a wound; I spent my days with that wound. It was like a burn in my heart. Many times I prayed to the Lord to take it away from me, but it hurt so bad that I strongly believed I was going to spend the rest of my life with it. It hurt more than when I lost my mom at a young age; it hurt more than when I lost my dad and even my son. It seemed to expand and cover my heart, giving me the impression I was going to even die at any time.
“Some other times I asked myself what the Savior would have done in my situation, and I would rather say, ‘This is too much, Lord.’
“Then one morning I looked for the pain that comes from all this in my heart and went deeper, looking for it in my soul. It was nowhere to be found. My mind quickly passed to review all the reasons I [had] to feel hurt, but I did not feel the pain. I waited the whole day to see if I was going to feel the pain in my heart; I did not feel it. Then I knelt down and thanked God for making the atoning sacrifice of the Lord work for me.”
This sister is now happily sealed to a wonderful, faithful man who loves her deeply.
So what should our attitude be if we are true disciples of Christ?

“We can feel enduring joy when our Savior and His gospel become the framework around which we build our lives.”